You cannot lose if you do not quit.

The addict needs help, as it is almost impossible to get clean on their own. I don’t want to criticize “rehabs” (rehabilitation centres), in fact, they are great institutions in the right circumstances. However, while rehabs do a great job for certain people, they can be very costly, and if you do manage to get Government funding for treatment, you could be waiting months or even years for it. At the time of writing, the Government has already taken steps to cut addiction funding in the USA.

One of the main problems with rehabs is that the addict is often away from the people they love and they miss them, which can hold back their progress. Also because they are being taught various new techniques, an addict can change, but the family does not because it has no involvement – the family then still sees their loved one as an addict. You may think this sounds strange but the family needs to understand how this person has been changed, and also what to do to help them when they come home. I want to show you some techniques that are used to build an addict’s self-confidence and self-esteem, which in turn will give them the confidence to kick the habit. Or if your loved one has been to rehab and didn’t last, or just needs a refresher to stay on the right road.

I’m not going to say this will be easy because it won’t be- it’s going to be difficult for both you and the addict. Patience is the most important tool in your kit box. Be patient with each other. It’s probably going to be the most difficult thing either of you have ever had to deal with. There will be times when you both feel like giving up, but remember this:

“You cannot lose if you do not quit!”

I have a note on my wall with that statement as a constant reminder. Never lose the ambition to reach the ultimate goal, no matter how hard things get. I want to assure you that if your addict relapses it does not necessarily mean they are not interested in their road to recovery. They need to learn how to deal with relapse. In fact, in this book, both yourself and the addict will learn lots of lessons and new things about yourselves, which will make you both better people.


I won’t promise the addict will be clean within a week because there is no quick fix. It is about changing the mindset of an addict, which can take time. I also cannot tell you how long it will take, because different people have been addicted for different periods of time.

Recovery also depends on how receptive a person is to making a change. I suggest these techniques are carried out for at least 1 year, with on-going self-development. However it should not take 1 year to get clean, just to change the behaviours, habits and mindset of the person enough that they are not addicted to the substance they were using.

However I believe a person should not be labelled a recovering addict forever. When your mindset is changed, the former life can actually be left behind. Being labelled a recovering addict is not good for self-esteem or self-belief. If you have changed the mindset of someone, they should never look back.